My ideal day would start at 9:30am, with some time with God, a nice cup of coffee, and a tasty breakfast.
Unfortunately, my morning usually begins a little less peacefully and usually a bit earlier than my ideal. More often than not, I wake up to my sweet little girl, saying “Mama” or
crying screaming if I was sleeping too hard. I pick her up from the crib, try to make myself as alert as possible, so I don’t tumble down the stairs carrying precious cargo (thankfully, this hasn’t happened yet), get her milk and breakfast and try, try, try to wake-up. I finally realize I haven’t had my coffee and stumble over to the coffee pot, knowing I have a set amount of time while little miss is entertained with breakfast and won’t want to “help” with every part of the coffee making. Don’t get me wrong, I love her help and I love that she is curious, but in my half awake state, I just want the coffee. While it brews, I head over to the couch with the little one, as she finishes her milk, because it is one of the few times of day when she will cuddle! Oh, if only I had gotten up before she did, so that I could have been ready for the day, so I could just soak in those cuddles!
I’ve been told time and time again how important it is to spend time with God in the MORNING. From experience, I know the days that I start with God are so much better, because my priorities are right. I also know that I am a better Mom on days where I get up early, because I am ready for the day, have had time with God and time for myself, before I dive into a day of serving and loving on my family.
I have the best of intentions, but I always seem to fail. I’ll get up early for a few days in a row, and then slowly the snooze button (or the off switch) become more appealing as I look at the short term (my love of sleep) and forget about the long term and the day ahead.
My husband and I lived on a college campus for years and used that as our excuse for our weird hours (up until 12:30 or 1am most nights) and starting our day later than most. 😉 However, we no longer live on campus, the excuse is no longer valid, yet we still keep odd hours.
I am constantly trying to be a better mom – less selfish, more “in the moment,” teaching while playing and exploring, and just devoting myself to my precious little girl, but I also have this longing for “me time” – time to blog, time to read, time to think or eat without cleaning up spills, wiping faces, or responding to the tug on my leg. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE being a mother to my core, but sometimes it is nice to have me time. This inner battle wages between wanting to be Mom of the year and wanting sometime for myself. I remind myself: be present, not selfish, you can have “you time” while she sleeps! Then, the nap doesn’t come when expected or only lasts for 20 minutes and I find myself burning out and it is only 2pm. I’m burning out, because my priorities aren’t right – I’m not starting my day with Him, the author of my life. I’m working in my own strength and haven’t gotten charged up at the beginning of the day…
My body screams, “I’m NOT a morning person,” but my brain knows I need to become one, even if my “morning” starts at 7:30,instead of the normal person’s 6am!
I came across a blog today, entitled 10 Ways to be a better mom everyday and, boy was I convicted!
These lines and the preceding list of 10 things hit to the core:
But the truth is that I want to be a better Mom. My children deserve the very best.
It starts with me…not my children. Sure, I can teach my boys to express themselves, and help my daughter to become a confident woman, but at the end of the day, if I do not keep myself happy, I am no good to them. They need me.
Our kids need a Mom who has plugged into her source and is happy and thrilled to be their Mom.
Number 1 on this bloggers list of ways to be a better Mom: “Rise and Shine.” Arrow to my heart! I know it’s true, but how?! Moments after reading this blog, I came across this great resource on pinterest (pinned by someone different and just on the pinterest equivalent of a “news feed”):
I don’t know if this list will be my cure all and it left off one important thing – go to be earlier – but I think it is a great place to start. I know with time, I could become a morning person, or at least a person who has time with God in the morning, before my baby doll wakes up!
Let’s say I try it! Here’s to being a better mom and to not burning out by 2pm!!