As we start our second adoption journey, funding is on my mind all the time! I am sure those of you who are also on the adoption journey can relate! Adoption is expensive (most of the time, with a few exceptions, including adoption from foster care). As a one income family, frankly, it isn’t something we could afford, without God’s intervention and a lot of fundraising! Over the next few days, I am going to do a three part series on Adoption Funding:
1) God’s Provision: When you step out in faith, God Provides
2) Feeling Unworthy: Should we be fundraising? ~ My personal insecurities as we raise funds.
3) Funding Resources: Grants, Loans, and Fundraising Ideas
TODAY: God’s Provision: When you step out in faith, God provides!
I am going to start this series by sharing our story of provision, not only because I need the reminder, but because sometimes we can get so bogged down in the dollars and cents that we often forget the one who called us to adoption in the first place and what He is capable of. Personally, this blog post is a bit of a “remembrance stone” for me (see Joshua 4) – a post to help me remember when the going gets tough! Hopefully, it will also serve as an encouragement to you!
A little over two years ago, a time came when we knew beyond a shadow of a doubt, that God was calling us to start the adoption journey. It had been a desire for a long time, but we finally knew God was saying, “this is the time and this is the way – walk in it.” The only problem: we were both still getting our graduate degrees and living on one [small] income. We had no idea how we would afford it, but for some reason (God), we both had a peace that financial provision would come. In fact, we hardly worried about it – we just turned it over to God and prayed (Hmm…maybe I should consider doing that this time around).
A week after we started the adoption process, Jonathan’s car started having major issues. It was old and worth less than $200 – no joke. We had a hard time justifying putting money in it to fix it. We needed a new car, since we both needed them for our jobs, but did not have the money to adopt and buy a new car. We always liked to pay cash for things, but started considering a loan, so we could use our savings to adopt. Then, we kept praying for direction.
The next week, we went to Alabama to visit family (a trip that had been planned and paid for for months). On our last day there, a family member wrote us a very large check to buy a new car. She had no idea we even needed a new car – she simply said she had received an inheritance that she didn’t need, so she was buying a new car for each of her three grandchildren! We were blown away. God was such a good provider!! Not only did he provide money for a new car, he provided enough money for us to get an SUV, which would make life with a little one so much easier! This was not necessary, at all, but so representative of our lavish God (and generous family members)! He truly is the God who gives immeasurably more than we could ask or imagine. (Ephesians 3:20)
A month later, after we were officially matched with our first birth mom (more details can be found here), we found out that Jonathan got a new job that came with free housing in a larger apartment than we currently lived in. His new job wouldn’t start for two months, but when they heard that we had to have a homestudy completed, they let us move in the next week and started the free housing immediately (this saved us over $1000 a month that could go toward the adoption)! We were, once again, blown away by God’s lavish and timely provision! Add this to our savings and we were well on our way to affording this adoption!
After the first adoption fell through, we knew it would be slightly difficult to afford another one (we had lost about $3000 in counseling and legal fees), but we continued to trust in our God who is an amazing provider! True to His character, God provided again! Shortly after our second match, we received a matching grant from Dark to Dawn, provided through Lifesong. Normally, the grant process takes over eight weeks, but they were able to get it processed in just shy of two weeks, so we were able to raise funds before our little angel joined us. The matching grant was for $2,500 and our generous friends matched it and more, providing just enough to cover the adoption expenses, so that we didn’t have to take out a loan! We even had friends share it with their friends and received donations from people we had never met! It was difficult to ask for help, but it was amazing to see how much joy people had in giving and how they all feel a special connection to Abigail, now, as a result! God used his people as vessels to help build our family! They all served a different role: some as financial providers, others as prayer warriors, and some as emotional support!
Many of the people who helped bring our little girl home
Then, to make it even better, a year after Abby was born, we were able to file for the Adoption Tax Credit. Over the next few years, we will receive a tax credit, up to our tax liability, because of the adoption! Hopefully, this will help pay for future adoptions!
Lesson learned: if God is calling us to something, don’t let finances or your fears stop you! God provides and will make a way! He is Jehovah-Jireh (Genesis 22:1-14), our provider!
Some scriptures to meditate on:
Psalms 50:10 ~ For all the animals of the forest are mine, and I own the cattle on a thousand hills.
Zephaniah 3:17 ~ The LORD your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.
Ephesians 3:20-21 ~ Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
Philippians 4:19 ~ And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Matthew 6:25-34 ~
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[e]?
28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
I hope and pray that God provides for your adoption, as He did for ours. Sometimes he provides in ways that we do not think are ideal (loans) or in mysterious ways or through redirection, but I believe wholeheartedly that if God is calling you to something, He will make a way!
How has God provided in your life?